Ventura: Anyway, the reason you're with this certain person, this certain lover, is not about love, or at least it's not about “having a good relationship”. You're with this person because your soul is hungry for them, your soul is seeking something with or through them, and it will insist on what it wants. It doesn't care what price YOU pay for that; the ego driven, agenda-ridden you is not the souls's priority. The nice thing about getting older is that you learn to pay some prices more gracefully, but the soul doesn't care. The soul is absolutely merciless–toward you, and toward anybody around you. The soul doesn't give a damn about human values.